Revive or Release? Review your most cherished core beliefs – a New Year’s Clarity Exercise

Getting clarity in 2015 despite the ego not wanting to appear to be ‘the fool’

Core-BeliefsThe mind holds beliefs and the ego/personality wants consistency and doesn’t want to appear ‘The Fool’ even to itself; therefore , a result of this can relate to how we tend to follow our own habitual ways of thinking without changing them.

We can then start appearing a bit delusional to others because the ego unchallenged and unaccustomed to letting go enough to examine a belief (stories) can be really thick.

Again, ego/personality wants consistency and status quo and prefers not to change because to change may mean we’ve been wrong which horrifies that part of us.

However, if we have the courage to question those core beliefs it can be a huge relief.

Yet, we can (at first) become shocked, angry, and unsettled especially when we realize these ideas that we’ve been anchoring into were only stories that we told our self.  Again, to let go of those stories represents inconsistency and this frightens the ego/personality part of the psyche.

What happens when we do question and release some of those beliefs that need to be discharged is that we experience a huge relief and real liberation.  It’s like when you’ve been holding something in your hand or in your arms for or a very long time and when you get to put it down—ahhh, what relief.  Right?

In doing psychic work sometimes I see folks who hold one particular belief about the spirit world that affects every aspect of what they do; but it causes confusion because that belief doesn’t square with all other experiences.  They may call me hoping I will validate a belief that they are trying to be consistent with but doesn’t resonate fully anymore.  I see how they struggle with it not wanting to change the habitual thought and  how they go back to clinging to it and then letting it go again—it takes courage to open your mind sometimes.   It can be frightening, shocking and very unsettling when one’s reality shifts suddenly.

There’s no need to berate one’s self after seeing the light–it is best to see it as a necessary part of the path and the process of growth and evolution.

Another example.  I knew a person who as an adult well into her 40’s blurted out one day that her aged mother was responsible for her lifelong and current overeating problem because her mother overfed her as a baby.  She was serious about this lifelong belief and when I did a double-take and repeated back to her what she had just said because I could hardly believe my ears she became momentarily enraged and shouted back, “Well, who else’s fault would it be?”  This is a true story and really drives home the point that I’m writing about.  This individual had, obviously, never questioned her own assumption and carried it for decades.  It could speak to an overall tendency to blame others, not take responsibility in other areas of life too.  I don’t know if she has let it go fully or if she is still holding it but hopefully you get the point I’m trying to make through this example–we hold to the strangest beliefs sometimes without realizing it.

It’s the New Year 2015 and we’re one week in now so I thought it to be a good exercise for myself to sit down and write down on a steno pad my deepest-held core beliefs and examine them.  This of course requires bare-bones honesty and deep contemplation.

I used the 12 houses of astrology to list 12 areas of life and then to examine those, asking myself if any could be erroneous or ridiculous beliefs I’m still holding or that I’ve outgrown.

Going through this exercise is radical because it really makes you come face-to-face with what ‘you’ believe and it may be an eye-opening experience helping you to see the points-of-view which you’ve held that you may not even have been aware you were holding.   Releasing those, I believe, is a way to help you on your way to enlightenment.

You may, through this exercise, see that you no longer agree with your old self and recognize inner conflicts which have been holding you back or keeping you from clarity and preventing you from being fully open to the grace of the universe.

If you wish to give this New Year’s exercise a whirl, here are 12 life categories you may like to use to stimulate your review.

My suggestion is that for each category, ask yourself what is your most cherished core belief.  These categories are based on the 12 houses of astrology.

Some of the houses hold more than one basic category or meaning.  The suggestion is to select the one category from each house that seems most significant for you. This is a good exercise to come back to, perhaps starting with one house category on one day and the next on another.  All categories or areas don’t have to be accomplished all at one sitting.

Some beliefs you may wish to keep holding which  will serve to rededicate your values; but others may need to be laughed at and sent out of your mind and heart and on their way!

The 1st houset: the self, demeanor, physical body, public image, and vitality.

The 2nd house: money earned and material goods; what is valued; issues of survival and self-reliance

The 3rd house: immediate surroundings, siblings, short trips, left brain/intellect, communication

The 4th house:  self-image, family, home, origins, heredity, and the nurturing parent

The 5th house: creativity, love matters, pleasure, leisure, children, self-expression

The 6th house: everyday life/routine, daily work (job) and colleagues, mentors, small animals/pets and health

The 7th house: relating to others, partnerships, other people

The 8th house: power/control issues, psychology, occult, passions and crises, transformations, death, financial investments, inheritance, other people’s money and sexuality

The 9th house: philosophy, long distance travels, abstract and higher concepts (right brain), religion, and foreign matters.

The 10th house:  social success, professional destiny/career, authoritative parent

The 11th house: friends, collective projects, supports and wounds

The 12th house: spirituality, what is hidden,   difficulties, solitude

If you do work with this exercise and find it helpful, I’d love to hear from you.

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Perceiving the Minds and Inner Truth of Others – Kua 61 Emptiness, Openness

You could, if you wanted to, observe a good deal by observing any group of people—either in person—or on the Internet in any of those group settings and those observations would give you a fairly good feel for that person’s INNER TRUTH which is being projected outwardly. The heart’s feelings and wisdom (or lack thereof) will eventually make itself known to the careful observer—it is about consciousness. And it is amazing to see it in action. It also helps me realize my own which is why we are here with each other, I suppose, rather than wing it completely alone. Yet, we’re still alone even in a group of other consciousness’es in bodies or in twitter land or other internet gathering places.

If you think about it, the Internet is a perfect example of how it REALLY ‘is’. What I mean is there you are on your computer, alone on your keyboard; yet, in some way still having interaction with various other levels of mind who show up on your screen through your Internet Connection. A perfect example of life.

We can hang out in Facebook-ville or the local train station and we’re just as much alone and interacting with other minds around us; it’s just that at the train station those minds are within a physical body. But, we’re still just as much alone—and this is true even if we have our family in the mix of minds and bodies. We’re still one mind observing the rest and sometimes interacting with them (relating to them) so that we can determine who it is we are and what it is we believe. Our Inner truth, their inner truth and sorting it all out and that takes, if you don’t mind me saying, a good deal of humor. Human nature really is pretty comical if one gives it half a chance to show itself by standing back and watching instead of participating. And we can also laugh at our self in the process too.

It makes me think of times when there’d be someone at a party or social event that others would think of as a wall-flower and sure as rain someone would come along and try to drag the person into the heart of the activity only to hear them protest that they were really enjoying watching. Why does no one ever believe that this could be true? Anyway, these thoughts are the precursor to more serious consideration of the KUA of the day which is 61, “Inner Truth”—the gentle, wind above the joyous, lake. VISUAL: the wind blows over the lake and stirs the surface of the water.

A heart/mind has to be free of prejudices in order to be open to truth; therefore, dogma has no place in observing the truth in self or others. In fact, it’s a hindrance. Truth is not found by adopting certain beliefs from the local preacher or priest-like cult or by any type of social conditioning. It comes from the silent voice of the intuitive heart.

The problem with social conditioning and dogma is that a person is deeply influenced without knowing they are conditioned and dogmatized—it’s all very subtle but it does not miss the careful observer. There are those who find joy in the victimization of their religious figures and model themselves right along with that and let us not omit the new age white lighters who find the multi-million dollar bandwagon to jump on by repackaging the dogma into a new form. It’s all plainly there in front of the eyes of a careful observer with the open, intuitive, free of dogma and unprejudiced heart. And it’s really hard not to laugh about it all until one realizes that people are serious and have created their own specialized hell out of it—and this elicits a certain compassion but at the same time acceptance knowing that someone’s truth is what it is until it isn’t anymore. And some minds with bodies find joy and freedom in obeying those that they deem to be their superiors with their books of writing to stand behind.

It becomes a struggle some days to know if one should smile or cry at what is clearly observed without influence—just simple observation with unattached emotionalism that is always available but often ignored. It’s sometimes insidious but often obvious. Like, there it is—there. Obvious. And it isn’t difficult to see it and know it, for people will bend over backwards to pour out their inner truth to you without even trying to do so.

What the difference is between the truth attained via dogma and social conditioning is both vital and spiritual. The inner voice of one’s own spaciousness is serine and based on love—that love has nothing whatsoever to do with victimization or suffering and all to do with inner peace.

Heaven and hell are both seeds in the mind that are just waiting for you to think them into being and there are many of those seeds planted upon this earth—which ones will you nurture? Which ones are being nurtured by the other minds around you? Do you have a belief ABOUT truth (call this religion) or are you more interested in inner truth?

When anyone has had ENOUGH of the truth that’s been handed to you; when you begin to awaken from the spell of religious and social conditioning and when you can duck and dodge the new-age white-lighters and their multi-million dollar businesses made from repackaged christianity, you will enter an entirely new territory which in spiritual terms is known as “walking the path”.

What does that mean? It has to do with abandoning the prior conditioning and then questioning life. And this leads you within and helps you get in touch with your own inner truth. And that, ultimately, comes out in your attitude eventually whether you want it to or not.

BOTTOM LINE: Once you achieve a state of emptiness and openness, you will be open to receiving wisdom and knowledge from inner sources and the Universe Itself. It requires an open mind and that starts with releasing dogma and beliefs based on old paradigms and patriarchies.

Eventually, you will be able, then, to perceive the minds and inner truths of others.