My Bird Story! Devoted Female Cardinal Tapping At My Windows And My Childhood Parakeet

My Feathered Friend! This image is a look-alike, not really her. The other images are look-alike's too. I can't get her and her mate to stand still long enough to snap a shot... they're both camera-shy I guess. Me too actually, so I "get it". LOL

Not rain, nor wind, nor sleet, nor snow will keep (not the postman but…) this bird from her appointed rounds! This bird has a zealous nature and seems particularly devoted!

Today, there’s a diversion from my normal posts with divination messages that are inspired by tarot cards and astrology. I can’t hold back writing about her any longer! Maybe I’ll make two blog posts today, pulling a card from the deck later, but for now I’ve got to get Ruthie out of my system—yeah, I named her (after my mother).

She’s a female cardinal who is accompanied by a very quiet and laid back companion named after my dad. They are like family now having been a noisy part (her not him) of my life since well before the first day of spring.

Ruth hasn’t missed a day, even when it snowed and froze over a few times or in a heavy rain event like this very morning, from her self-appointed job—tapping on my bedroom window in the morning, the kitchen window when I make coffee, the living room window when I sit at the computer or the sliding glass door in the back when I’m in the den.

No, REALLY.  This bird actually knows which room I’m in and follows my steps throughout the day! At first, I thought it was co-incidence. After all, how can a bird be so aware of my movements inside the house? All I know is that she is.

And when the phone rings or I’m on the line with a client, she hears my voice and hangs on the screen door for long periods or she flies directly up and down repeatedly parallel to the sliding glass door. Now, I have to say that I don’t know all that much about bird behaviors or what’s normal or what isn’t, but I’ve lived in this house for over 5 years and never had such companions!

Yeah, I know what they say (I spent a little time googeling a while back).  About female cardinals they say that they are seeing their reflection in the glass pane and, thinking it’s another bird, they are trying to frighten it off.  (Supposidly, its a territorial protection thing.)  I actually bought that for a while, but this has been going on way too long and consistently for that to be the real case.

As she engaged in her daily tapping on my bedroom window routine again this morning and I talked to her as I usually do (she stops tapping with her beak, tilts her head, listens to my voice and chirps back), I got to thinking about names. It’s always been my belief that even though parents think that it is they who name their babies, that the soul of the baby telepathically communicates their chosen name to their mother’s consciousness while in utero.

I was considering that while thinking about how I named this bird after my mother because of her incessant tapping.  It reminded me of how my mom used to tap her fingernails on the table—both types of tapping fall into the category of irritating. Yeah, my mother could be and this bird sometimes is too!  Yet I miss Mom and if this bird decided to move away, I’d miss her too.

My mother crossed over in December of last year and in the late days of winter, this cardinal showed up along with her very quiet and polite companion. With his demeanor being so much like my father’s, and since he’s Ruth’s companion, I named this bright red feathered friend after Dad. So this morning, she tapped and I talked and after a bit of that, I walked to the kitchen to make the coffee. She flew along the side of the house landing, as she usually does, outside the kitchen window so we could continue our conversation.

Waiting for my coffee I wondered to myself if she didn’t name herself like babies do! My mom promised me that she’d get a message to me after she crossed over and maybe this is one way she’s doing it—who knows? Go ahead and color me crazy if you’d like… I’m quite used to it. I talk to this bird like I talk aloud to my spirit guides half the day—it is what it is. Anyway…

You know, this feels like I’m writing an article for that old “True Confessions” magazine—remember that one? I wonder if it’s still around. This is probably boring stuff, and who knows if maybe all my blogs are, but I’ve just got to write about Ruth and her companion today.

Did you know that cardinals mate for life? He’s a hoot, you know? She’s all excited tapping on the window and flying up and down along the sliding glass door and he’s grabbing seed from the bird feeder and putting the seeds in her mouth which calms her down a moment or two and then she’s back at it again–and then so is he. It’s comical. Google says that this is normal bonding behavior. But I have something else to tell you about regarding Ruth and her bright red companion.

I am going to see if I can scan the picture. You see I had a bird when I was let’s say around 10 years old or so, a parakeet. My brother and I both had one. I loved my bird. I actually did managed to drag out the photo from an old album… I was so happy about those birds when our parents bought them for us!

Anyway, as these things go, sometimes during full Moon times my psyche seems to want to do these life reviews—go figure. And various memories pop up, mostly things I regret or memories of stupid things that I’ve done in my past rear their ugly heads!  And then I end up apologizing to the ceiling for them!

This bird event was one of them. There I was yelling up toward the ceiling and out to the ethers, “I’m sorry! I’m so sorry!” You see, about this bird:  I took the cage outdoors, with the bird inside no less, and placed it on the porch to clean the bottom of the cage.

You know how you slide out the bottom, replace paper and slide it back in again, right? Well, the bottom wasn’t in correctly and I lifted up the cage and my pretty light blue bird flew out!

I loved my bird and was devastated!

There I was during a full Moon at 2 in the morning flashing to a scene where I’d just learned the bird was found dead and was laying on my bed crying. My brother in his effort to comfort me is at my bedroom window outside with my dad and he calls to me, “Don’t worry, Dad is burying him right outside your window.” I cried even louder!

Usually when full Moon memories like this haunt me, I get up and meditate. On the worst occasions I’ve had to take 2 Advil PM’s to knock myself out! On the night of the full Moon bird drama memory, I threw off the covers, marched down the hall toward the kitchen and headed for 2 PM’s. I’m NOT going to lay here apologizing to a bird from 50 years ago!

In the days that followed, I found myself wishing for a bird. Trust me, the feeling was so strong that if there’d been a pet store anywhere within driving distance that sold parakeets, I’d have been there!

And it wasn’t but a heartbeat or two away from when I had those feelings that Ruth, the female cardinal, and her companion showed up. And they’ve been with me ever since.  Did I attract them through my desire?

I got to thinking not long after that how I’d actually feel sad to see a bird in a cage. Birds should fly free!

Ruth does and she’s a nice feathered friend to boot!

PS—it wasn’t the bird feeder that attracted them in the first place. (And, I hear her out there now actually chirping while I type this line.) I didn’t buy the bird feeder until long after they moved in, so-to-speak.

Also, I wanted to mention that my mom has communicated with me a number of times since her crossing, but hasn’t mentioned the bird.   And I have duly apologized from my little girl self to the pretty light blue parakeet–quite a number of times actually.

Anyway, that’s my story and now my story is done!

7 thoughts on “My Bird Story! Devoted Female Cardinal Tapping At My Windows And My Childhood Parakeet

  1. Hi Kit, Thanks for telling about your experience with the cardinal. Loved reading about it! Perhaps they contain spirits of ancestors or relatives in spirit world — we will never know for sure but certainly they have a special connection with you.

  2. kit April 26, 2018 / 1:59 AM

    We have an oceanfront condo in Florida. One day last year I was in the bedroom reading and I heard a loud bird. It sounded very close and somewhat frantic. It’s the beach and there’s a lot of wildlife so I didn’t think too much of it. Moments later a bright red male cardinal was in our bedroom. He’d flown in from the balcony, through open sliding doors, through the living room, down a very short hallway and into the bedroom. He turned around and managed to fly staying in one place and cocked his head looking at me. He did that for a solid five seconds at least. Above him an overhead ceiling fan whirred on high speed. I was so taken aback and wanted him to stay but had to let out a little long yelp because of the ceiling fan. He flew out the way he’d come in but the entire experience stayed with me. What I think is what I think, but what happened is a fact. At our main home in central Florida we’ve have the same cardinals come back to nest in our yards year after year. We know it’s them by where they nest. This year we’ve gone all out and bought a Brome cardinal bird feeder that keeps out squirrels and heavier birds and is designed for cardinals only. Our yearly cardinals came back this year and had a clutch of four eggs. It’s fun watching them with their now one month year old fledglings who are just now flying to the feeder on their own while the male watches and sings calls from 20 feet away the entire time. Cardinals are a blessing to me.

  3. Jackie November 10, 2014 / 5:55 PM

    Hi. In the spring of 2013 I had a female cardinal do the same thing on my bedroom patio door, as her mate also sat on the deck rails patiently waiting. Then she started following me from room to room too. I don’t recall if she was around in the winter but this past spring she and her mate came back and the persistent room following, pecking behavior continued. I sold my house at the end of May and moved 200 miles away and last week I was looking out my apartment window and a female cardinal flew INTO the shrub outside and sat there looking and chirping at me for a few minutes. There was not a screen for her to cling onto so she flew away. I haven’t noticed if she has come back but if I took the time to watch I wouldn’t be surprised that she is nearby. I’ve had several family members pass in the past seven years and so it could be related. I also have another significant spiritual thing that has been happening for the past couple of years and I do believe it is all related.

  4. Craig April 17, 2014 / 10:48 AM

    This was funny to read. This year, April 12th, 2014 marked the arrival of our female Cardinal flapping at our windows. It started shortly after my Dad left to go visit his brother for the weekend. I started hearing this tapping noise. Not sure what it was about a half hour later I noticed this female Cardinal tapping and flapping in front of our living room window. Always the same window. Weird I thought. Just like you I decided to Google as to what was causing this behavior. Like everybody else, it says territorial, etc., etc., etc.. Well, I put up with it, took quite a few pictures of her which many came out great and let it be til my Dad came home on Monday. It didn’t take my Dad 10 minutes before he decided no way was she pecking at the windows by his chair like that so he takes a yellow plastic bag outside and attaches it to the window sill. Problem solved! So we thought. The next day the little lady is back but tapping and flapping at the side window. Most times just sitting on the window sill looking in. WEIRD! She could actually see us. Get up from the recliner and go into the kitchen which is the other end of the house and lo and behold, in flies the little lady again sitting on the window sill in the kitchen! Okay, now it’s getting creepy. All this while the male sits out in the feeder more than likely saying “why do I have to have a batty wife” lol. It is now April 17, 2014 and the little lady is still going from window to window following us as if she can hear our every movement in the house. This is an all day thing into the evening hours. Today I decided to “talk” to her through the kitchen window and Yes! I know without a doubt she can hear me cuz she constantly tilts her head back and forth and chirps back, too funny! After I talk to the bird I notice my Dad sitting in his chair kinda sad, I asked what’s up? He said, what if it’s Mom? I’m stopped dead in my tracks. Is he for real I thought? Then he said, Mom always said when she dies, she wants to come back a Cardinal. Well, My Mom passed away in April of 2013. We miss her every single day. I have felt it my duty to keep my Dad busy at all times through the past year, the holidays, etc., because in the beginning when Mom first passed away, all my dad would do was lay in bed crying, his health was failing, got him to the doctors, they were worried he was gonna die of a broken heart. So, I started keeping him busy, concentrating on him and I always doing things, putting my life on hold, promising my Mom that I would take care of him. Well, here it is, a year after my Mom passed away, after the record breaking snowfall season of what seemed to be one of the longest winters ever and we have this crazy female Cardinal going back and forth sitting on our window sills, chirping away at us. I’d like to think of it as some sort of sign of Mom. What once was an annoyance to my Dad has now got him looking forward to her daily visits. He’s smiling and talking to her, she’s chirping and flapping at him. I think we can live with “Betty” (Moms name) stopping in and visiting us everyday 🙂 Thanks for reading…….

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  7. Julie February 26, 2012 / 4:10 PM

    I couldn’t resist commenting , I have a female cardinal that does the exact same thing to me , all day everyday for like the last two months and you are right it doesn’t matter what the weather is like outside.
    I feel a lot better knowing that I am not the only one that has this happening at my house .
    I actually took a video of her tapping on my window and her mate stays back and watches but I look forward to them keeping me company . I absolutely love my birds….. I feed my wild friends and have nesting boxes in my yard and have a lot of different species of feathered friends that stop by to eat.

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