Many times our inner fears keep us closed off from healing the divine male/female energy within us and we manifest that imbalance as difficult relationships.
Today’s Cosmic Communiqué is about LOVE—what else would the Tarot Card of The Lovers be about?
But the type of love that I’m called to write about today has to do with adaptability to change—specifically, change in relationships. And about the balance within each individual. The energy of this card has to do with energy associated with Gemini energy; yeah, the twins.
Many people are coming forward to ask for help regarding relationship issues right now—any apparent imbalance within a soul is calling for recognition and that can manifest as dramatic relationship dynamics.
It seems, to me, that this is happening quite a lot lately. How long can we drive around in an automobile that has its alignment out of balance, for example, before eventually we manifest a flat tire or some other mechanical issue? Okay, well, maybe that is a ridiculous example, but you get the idea.
If WE our own self, the individual entity, are not balanced within our own psyche, after a period of time, it’s going to manifest in some way. If we’re in a relationship and are projecting onto our partner—this is one way that we are imbalanced with our own male/female energy—that this partner has something we feel is lacking within us, we create a needy relationship. That’s one way to say it—a relationship of dependency perhaps.
We do that, you know? Here’s a simple example. A woman feels unattractive physically—doesn’t think she’s pretty. She feels this is something she lacks—physical beauty or handsomeness. And very likely it isn’t true at all, but she still feels that way about herself. So she finds herself attracted to men who have a handsome physical appearance so that she can fulfill within herself, through him, that which she feels is lacking. Another way to say it is that she projects her own beauty ‘onto’ him.
We could use any set of dynamics—money, humor, intelligence and so forth. When one person is basing a relationship upon these types of projections, it comes from a position of not having own their inner energy balanced.
What about the partner who is projected upon? Same thing, but in reverse and now we have a disaster ready to happen at some point down the road—and that’s a road that many people seem to be crossing right now.
And a few accidents are happening—there’ve been some crashes. But, why? Well, why do crashes happen? Somebody was off course, someone was not paying attention or (using our example above), the tire got a flat.
We see the dynamic in abusive relationships… one partner feels undeserving or guilty for reason (sometimes a reason that has nothing to do with the relationship itself) but just carries within their soul the make-up or energy-vibration of guilt. And this is a signal that sends out a message, “I deserve to be punished.” Perhaps it’s a very old soul wound brought in from a former life—who knows? No matter how it got there to start with, that person, regardless, is vibrating in a state of imbalance, meaning the male/female energy is unhealthy. Lo and behold, who responds to that signal? Another who carries the opposite energy—the one who feels superior. And now we have the dynamic happening that psychologist call sadism and masochism. And the roles reverse from day-to-day in these type relationships. We can refer to them in more gentle terms such as victim/victimizer or persecuted/persecutor. You get the idea, right?
So now we get this also in relationships where we play one another’s parents… and one day she’s the parent and he’s the child and then next day the other way around.
Anyway, all of that comes from the male/female energy within each being which is out of balance.
So what do we do when we realize this is the case in our relationship?
Healing the Divine Mother and Divine Father within the soul, the psyche, is needed. Then we have an inner or internal unity and there is no longer a need to project something we feel is lacking onto another. When we quit doing that, we no longer need to manifest difficult relationships or conflict in relationships to call our attention to the inner imbalance.
A good question for today is to ask the self if we are too yin in relationships or too yang. Is our female side balanced with our male side? Are we attracting aggressiveness from our partner to help us strengthen our male side? Are we being accused of being too aggressive because our male side is too strong and because we need to soften, be more compassionate? You get the idea, right?
My sense is that the divine messengers want me to convey is that sometimes a vehicle gets too banged up, is involved in one-too-many accidents for it to be repaired for it to ever function properly again.
I mean even if you try to balance the tires on a car whose engine is blown, how much good will it do? Sometimes we have to understand that car’s just can’t be repaired anymore and neither can the relationship.
Sometimes we have to learn to walk—be without a car. Or take public transportation for a while or go get a new car. Sure we may miss the old one especially if we’re the sentimental type or if we have tendencies toward attachment. Maybe I’m that way myself.
You should see all the old pairs of shoes that I’ve held on to! Are people and relationships like an old worn pair of shoes that you don’t want to let go of? Sometimes they can be.
I had old sneakers, worn and barely wearable in my closet along with high heels from way back in my ‘office work’ days—I simply didn’t throw them out. You know, hoarders go through that process! Not that I am a hoarder–except for shoes and sometimes clothes. It’s just hard to toss them, but eventually I do after they’ve accumulated.
Why do we do that–why do we keep things that no longer function. With me and my shoes or clothes I guess the thinking goes something like “Someday I may need that or want that.” And then one fine day there you are looking at all those old shoes and wonder, “What the heck have I been thinking hanging on to all these!” You shake your head, get the big green trash bag and easily place them in and get them ready for the trip to the dump. Not a problem once you see the accumulation and you start to GET REAL… and sometimes an accumulation needs to happen before the getting real process awakens us.
Is it the same with relationship experiences?
Should you do that with relationships? Well, you’d hardly toss your partner in a green bag to get ready for the dump—although, if I can interject a little bit of humor, I’ve met folks who—in moments—have felt like they wanted to!
We can’t do that with people, of course, but we can realize that sometimes what we’ve been hanging on to no longer makes any sense and that’s usually when relationships end. But it’s not the end of the world! It’s just the soul moving forward.
The whole lesson of The Lovers Tarot Card inspired message today is to recognize that love is within and if there’s a relationship problem or issue manifesting in your life right now, perhaps look at what the magnetism or attraction was in the first place. Were you looking at ‘the other’ in such a way that you expected him or her to fulfill a need within yourself that you felt was lacking?
How well have you honored yourself and ‘the other’ by maintaining a feeling of unity and love within yourself without letting ‘the other’ take from you or disturb your inner unity? If you are giving too much or not enough, being the child or playing the role of the parent, the victim or victimizer, the persecuted or persecutor—it’s only a matter of time before there’s a flat tire and maybe even a crash. After too many crashes, the vehicle called ‘the relationship’ may simply not work anymore. Could it be time to catch a bus?
Gemini is the energy archetype associated with this card—and this archetype is, as you likely already know, associated with communication. It is also associated with superficiality—meaning, non-depth and as that’s applied to a relationship, we could see marriages or relationships of convenience as part of what today’s message is asking you to examine.
Gemini (Mercury) energy is also associated with instability as well as dishonesty. In a connection with ‘the other’ in which both partners do not have that yin/yang energy balanced, it can result in relationships that are unstable or have a basis of dishonesty at the core.
Gemini is also very restless energy and, via its Sagittarius polarity, is associated with “living a double life” and “living a lie”.
This, once again, happens when one or both partners are operating in an energy imbalance. Sure, we all have days or weeks maybe wherein our inner energies are out of balance; but this goes deeper than that—I’m talking about a core imbalance that is deep within the soul and thus, maintained over extended periods of time.
This is a very tough and sensitive topic especially right now at this space-time juncture. I’m getting more calls for readings that have dramatic relationship themes over the past month than I can ever remember receiving.
Relationship stuff can hurt deeply and my attempts at a little humor while blogging this post today will not be, I hope, interpreted as insensitive but rather as my awkward attempt to lighten a rather heavy topic.
There’s a whole lot more to say and this post isn’t intended to be all-inclusive–just a simple message from the divine messengers from the broadcasting signal that I picked up today. Or so goes my own illusion.
If you are struggling with a relationship issue right now, please accept my sympathetic compassion. I hope there has been something here in this post that has been helpful in some way.
There is light at the end of the tunnel as the saying goes and you will come through the other side of it. It’s going to be okay!